Wednesday, February 22, 2012

a wife of noble character

I can't believe in just under a month Dave and I will be celebrating our first anniversary! This first year has really flown by and been great!

Dave and I decided before we got married that we would always do our best to invest in our marriage. We have heard so many stories of failed marriage and we did not want to be one of those stories. We talked about how we would do something every year, whether a weekend conference or weekly series, to develop our marriage. Three weeks ago we started a weekly marriage class called The Marriage Course. It is a 7 week study and we are really enjoying it.

For our wedding, we received many great books and devotional for married couples. One that I know Dave has really enjoyed is The Power of a Praying Husband. He read through it once and is reading it again. I just recently started The Power of a Praying Wife. We are so thankful to have received these books as gifts and would recommend them to any married couple.

While I was reading through the first chapter of the book. The author, Stormie Omartian, mentions Proverbs 31:10-31. As I read through the verses of "The Wife of Noble Character" I am reminded of what I should be striving for as a wife.  I also know that I cannot do all of these things on  my own. I need the Lords help.  Only He can make me into this woman. I'm going to pray over these verses and make an effort to memorize the section so that these words will always be in my heart. I'm also committing to pray for my husband with more intention. I have started asking him what he needs prayer for so that I can pray for him for that specific need.

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
   She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
   and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
   all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
   and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
   bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
   she provides food for her family
   and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
   out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
   her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
   and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
   and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
   and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
   for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
   she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
   where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
   and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
   she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
   and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
   and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
   her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
   but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
   but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
   and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Proverbs 31:10-31 NIV

We are in a battle. We have to fight for our marriage. Fight for each other. Fight to allow our love to grow and not just fizzle out. We recognize that this is a fight for the rest of our lives and we are willing to get in the battle. These verses encourage me to strive to be better. To be the wife God created me to be.

If you have never read these books, I strongly encourage you to. Through prayer, God can work amazing miracles!

If you are single and reading this...it is never too early to become a prayer warrior. There are lots of things to pray for. Figure out what that is and commit to pray for it each day. Even pray for your future husband or wife.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

pit stop

Last week and last night we got to be the pit stop for Dave's brothers family as they traveled to and from Mexico. They got to our house last Thursday evening and stayed the night. The girls were extra cuddly after not seeing us for a while :)

Lillian

We were all up bright and early at 4 a.m. so that Uncle Dave could take them to the airport.

Olivelle (its 4a.m. don't judge!)

They got to the airport at almost midnight last night and Dave went to pick them up. I didn't wait up for them but got to spend a couple hours with them this morning.

Uncle Dave and his favorite nieces!

They are getting so big and we miss getting to see them on a more regular basis. It was good to see them all even though it was a very short visit.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

thankful - kelly

One of the hardest and most rewarding parts of moving to a new place is making new friends. I am so blessed to have many great friends back in Indiana. But there is something about having a friend that you can be with in less than 4 hours :) 

This is Kelly


Kelly and I hit it off right away.  She is a great person! She is a great listener and has helped me so much during this time of adjusting to a new area. We share our sense of humor as well as TV watching :) She is a great woman of faith and I'm so thankful that God placed her in my life at the perfect time.

Kelly has two adorable kids and she stays home with them. This has been really great since I haven't had a job. I can go over to her place pretty much whenever I want ;) It gets me out and about to spend quality time with a great friend! I'm positive that Dave is thankful as well that I have someone to spend time with while he is studying.

It sure doesn't seem like we have only known each other a couple of months! I am so very thankful for Kelly!

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

valentine's day

Yesterday morning I woke up to a dozen red roses :) Isn't he the best!?!? And also a beautiful card. What a sweet way to start Valentine's Day.  It didn't take long for our day to turn into a search around the apartment for a very crucial part of our V-day celebration.

About a week ago we had started talking about what we were going to do.  We are on a very tight budget currently with no income and all :) so we discussed no gifts and what to do for dinner.  Fortunately, we were very happy to receive a gift card to The Cheesecake Factory last week! We were so excited that we could go to one of our favorite places for Valentine's Day and not have to worry about our budget! So the plan was set!

As I was thinking about our plan yesterday morning, I was trying to remember where I had put the gift card. I had put it somewhere "safe" while cleaning up for our house guests last week. The problem was, I couldn't remember what "safe" place I had chosen. I had absolutely no recollection of where I put it. We started looking all over the apartment. I went to all my go to locations for putting things. It was NO WHERE! Dave was very understanding and not mad. He left for school and I needed to get out and run a few errands. I thought that maybe once I got out and about it would come to me. Well, it never did. Dave got home from school and searched the whole apartment again. Then I searched all over again. Our apartment isn't that big so it seemed so crazy that we couldn't find it anywhere.

I asked Dave if he wanted to change our plans and he said that we could still go. So we went. I was so disappointed that I had lost the gift card!  I started to wonder if it had accidentally got thrown away. Then I started feeling even worse about it thinking we'd never find it! I could tell Dave was disappointed too.

We got to dinner and got seated right away. We had planned to go early to beat the rush. We enjoyed our dinner and cheesecake even without the gift card.


We found the gift card this morning :) Now we get to go again! Happy Valentine's!

Thursday, February 9, 2012

thankful - job

I have been searching and applying for jobs since before we moved. This task is not one of my favorites. Back during the first week of January I was really dragging my feet on the whole job search. I was discouraged that I had filled out so many applications and turned in so many resumes with nothing coming back.

I was talking to one of the employees at the Y and she suggested I go look at the job board at a college near by. I said "thank you" and went about my day. I mentioned it to Dave so the next day he practically dragged me there to check it out. I was uncomfortable because I didn't attend that school, and wasn't quite sure where we were going. We find the place she was speaking of and it was an unemployment office. We went in (me feeling even more uncomfortable) and find the job board. We don't see anything on there that is in my field so we head toward the door. We were standing there awkwardly looking around one last time when a lady behind the counter asked us if we have a computer at home. Then she gave us a list of websites to check out for jobs. Then she suggested we go over to the computer and sign up for a job site database. She mentioned how she had trouble at home so if we had trouble we could ask the guy nearby. I looked at Dave like "I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS!" and he said "lets do it!" We did have trouble and the gentleman was able to help us.

The next morning I got on the website that I had signed up for. I typed in "teacher" and 5 postings came up. They were all with the same company. And I recognized the company because I had gone to one of their break out sessions at a conference last fall. I wrote a quick email to the recruiter and attached my resume and called it a day. Later that afternoon, the recruiter called me! I was in shock! It was so quick! She did a phone interview for about 15 minutes and told me about a center she had in mind for me (not the one I applied for) and that they would be in touch with me by the end of the week. On Friday, I got a call from the center and did another phone interview (on the sidewalk in downtown Chicago). She said someone would be in touch with me the next week. On Monday I got called for an interview on Wednesday.  I was at the interview for 3 hours! I felt it went well. The lady said someone would be in touch with me. So I waited...and waited...and waited. I started to wonder if they had picked someone else.
 
Four weeks later...they offer me a job! YAY! I will be a Preschool Teacher starting February 27th! I'm so thankful that the Lord lined this job up for me. There were times during the past 4 weeks where I began to become discouraged. I felt with the way the job lined up that this was THE job that the Lord had planned. I couldn't understand why it was taking so long.  I had to remind myself several times that the Lord's plan is perfect and I need to wait on Him. Thank you all for your prayers and support during this time of waiting.

We are praising God for another provision in our life!

Monday, January 30, 2012

suffering

Trinity has a program called Trinity Wives Fellowship. This is a group for the wives of the seminary students. A couple of weeks ago I went to the kick off for the semester and got connected with a small group. We are studying 1 Peter. As I was studying the first part of the first chapter a few verses really stood out to me.

In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may
have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so 
that your faith -- of greater worth than gold, which perishes even 
though refined by fire -- may be proved genuine and may result in 
praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.
1 Peter 1:6-7 

As Dave and I traveled to Muncie last week for the birth of my nephew, the trek reminded me of the last time we went to that hospital. It was to be with my Grandma Carr as she passed on to Heaven. Thinking of that reminded me of some of the suffering my family went through. Within one year, we lost my uncle and both of my grandmas. To add to that my parents also lost several of their close friends. It was a rough year. It was a year of suffering.  

As we went to the hospital for my nephews birth, I was reminded that even through the suffering of losing a loved one, there is also new life. Death is a part of life. A part that no one really wants to face because it hurts and we miss those we've lost.  But there is hope in Jesus Christ who will never leave us. This life is temporary and we can use everyday to rejoice no matter what the circumstances.  This will prove that our faith is genuine.  And we will be able to move through the suffering with joy.

Suffering comes in all different forms not only limited to death. Being far away from family and friends can feel a bit like suffering too.  Or doing something difficult that you know God has called you to do. And even battling an illness.  What a great reminder to REJOICE in ALL our suffering.


Monday, January 23, 2012

happy BIRTHday ethan!

Yesterday our nephew, Ethan, was born. He is the first son of my sister Elizabeth and her husband Randy. And the first grandchild. Dave and I were able to travel to Muncie on Saturday while my sister was in labor. We mostly spent time in the waiting room but got to go back and see her every once and a while. I'm so proud of her and Randy. I know that we were tired from being there late at night so I can only imagine how they felt.

Liz and Randy taking labor head on!!

I can't quite imagine what child birth is like, nor having a child. But I experienced something I've never experienced before this weekend.  I've had several friends have babies and I've been very excited to meet their new little ones. And I've come to love them as they grow. When Dave and I got married I also gained two nieces who I love like crazy. Like I said, there was something different. Something different about my sister having a baby. I was so excited! I couldn't wait to meet him. I couldn't wait to see what he looked like. To hold him and to look at all his features and decide who he looked like.

We waited at the hospital till midnight on Saturday. The nurse told us she had a lot longer to go, so if we wanted to go get rest we could come back when he was here. We got news that he was born at 4:42 a.m. Once I heard I couldn't sleep any longer! I had to get to the hospital. I finally got to see my sweet nephew about 8:30.


I walked in and saw Randy holding his new son. It was love at first sight. I couldn't believe he was here and he was so cute!! I couldn't believe this miracle that was in the arms of my brother-in-law. I couldn't take my eyes off him. I wanted to see every part of him! Finally my sister said, "Ethan." I had completely forgot to ask what his name was. It didn't even matter. Because I loved him.



I am so proud of my sister. I got to see a side of labor that I've only seen on TV shows. But this was my sister. To see her fight through the pain of contractions was unlike anything I've seen her do. And she looked beautiful the whole time! I love her so much!



Randy was amazing. He stayed by my sisters side and supported her every step of the way and kept us all informed. I know that it is hard to see someone you love in such pain. He did a great job.

Ethan is going to have great parents. He also has great extended families that are going to surround him with love and support as he grows. I can't wait to celebrate all his major milestones in life. Remembering the day he was born. And how I felt when I got to meet him.

01.22.2012 8lbs 3oz 21 inches
Happy Birthday Ethan! I love you so much!

 13 For you created my inmost being;
   you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
   your works are wonderful,
   I know that full well.

Psalm 139:13-14